Excerpts from the Published Works of Fadi Hattendorf

What Is Love? Perspectives On Love

Chapter 1 — Darling, I Love You


They had come a long way to gain the confidence they needed to finally be together. They were uncertain at the beginning, but after a while, they realized the truth: They indeed belonged to each other. They were in love, and they shared a deep, unique faith and trust in one another. They wouldn’t let go of each other—they couldn’t—and they enjoyed taking walks in the park. It was in such a park that the public caught a glimpse of their private affection. They had their faces in each other’s hands, their noses almost touching, and their lips undeniably close. Then there was the whisper of those precious words that may or may not be accompanied with a tender kiss, the words that cause your body to tremble, the love of the moment in reality: “Darling, I love you.” But what is love? What goes through your mind when you say that? What do you really feel? Is it all real, all unbelievably true, or it is just a flash of light that will never be seen again?


“I love you” are words full of possibilities, a gate to opportunities. They could be a camouflage of a betrayal, a silent crime, the beginning of a dream, or the beginnings of a life journey that will never end, the highly regarded happily-ever-after.


Do you occasionally use the words “I love you” conditionally?


Do you just use it whenever you feel like using it, as a way to get rid of or to gain something?


“Love” is a heavy word, but at the same time, it can be very light. There is no logic in it, but it is there. It is visible, practical, and theoretical. But what do we really know about it?


Should we love because we want to accomplish a goal or plan?


Should someone say, “I love you” to get sex or something else in return?


Do you say it simply to exploit the other person?


What do you say it for?


What is love? A banquet? A gestural expression? An expression of poison? A beginning of madness? An ineffable feeling?


Sometimes I think it is only a term without meaning, nothing more than an indictable but ignored criminal. I do not wish to express my feelings for individuals that I love and hate at the same time. I’m afraid and concerned whenever I hear the word “love” or the simple sentence “I love you” uttered to me or someone else. “I love you” is often used as a basic foundation for marriage. Two people do not necessarily marry because they love each other, but maybe because they just want to live together, because they fear being isolated. Meanwhile, they have sex and reproduce themselves without truly loving each other. It seems like it is all about what is in your mind, that secrecy that no one has access to.

An Evolving Society

Book Cover — Summary


Infertility can be a problem for anyone, but the modern age offers many options to combat it for those who desire to have children. These immense possibilities, however, are tangled with dilemma. In this book, you will read about three different families, each facing their own unique challenges on their path to parenthood. Unable to conceive on their own, they turned to semen and egg donors and surrogates for help.


Landor, a sperm donor at one time, faced a severe consequence of his lifestyle and diet when he discovered that he was no longer able to father a child with his wife, Curvie. Unable to track down the donation he’d made years earlier, Landor and Curvie were forced to turn to another sperm donor for help in creating their children.


While some parents are open to their children about how they were conceived, some are not. For Kalak, an unexpected knock on the door shed light on his real identity, revealing the truth about his mother’s alleged one-night stand that led to his birth. His revealed identity was so troublesome to his wife, Mana, that it put his wonderful marriage and his beautiful life with his wife and two children on the verge of destruction.


The path to the success for any desire is praised today. Modern technology allows so many people access to whatever they want, whenever they want it. When someone decides they want to have a child, modern technology affords the opportunity for them to do so. The problem in our evolving society is that the parents’ quest for happiness often overshadows the potential consequences for their children and society in general.